![]() "It does not matter whether you are firing at an enemy near you or an opponent some distance away, you should be adept at selecting the the best arrowhead." The Hundred Rules of War This one builds nicely on the topic from last week in that, for the vast majority of us, our words are our greatest weapon. We use different speech for our closest friends; our inner circle, than we typically use for casual acquaintances. Whether the conversation is encouraging or corrective, we have different words for different folks. Think you don't have enemies? Deep down inside, how do you feel or respond when criticism is brought to you? How do you react when someone shares a corrective observation? Maybe it's just me, but I take it as a personal attack. Not bragging. In fact, it's one of my many great flaws. Historically, I've not done well with choosing the best arrowhead when responding at times like that. It's something that I definitely need to work on. This literally just crossed my mind: What's the difference between a good friend and a vile enemy sharing the same criticism? Intent. That's it. The friend means to build you up. The enemy means to tear you down. It's all in the intent...and THAT is exactly where I mess up. How about you? Do you find yourself assuming the intent of the person speaking to you? Emailing you? Texting you? If they're a close friend, shouldn't we always assume that their intention is to make us better? If that's the case, let's try to choose the perfect arrowhead (word) as our response. Osu!
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12/31/2018 07:52:08 am
I am now excited about what is in store for me by February. I heard I will be getting a great job that will allow me to fill my heart's need to immerse myself with little advocates. A chance to visit a beautiful town is also being arranged. I can't believe I just let a lot of years pass me by without really doing things that are healthy for my emotional health. It seems we have been taught wrong values. We are not just seeds who will eventually grow and be used. I am not sure what that meant for others but I think I have a different view of things.
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