Nobody talks to you as much as you do. I mean, have you ever stopped to consider how much you talk to yourself each day? Don't believe me? What do you say to yourself when the alarm goes off in the morning? Or, if you're like me, what do you cry to yourself when the baby wakes up in the middle of the night? You talk to yourself all the time! It's one of the ways in which we process the world...and it's not necessarily a bad thing.
Where we slip is in mistaking "talking" to ourselves for "listening". You are your own worst critic right? Well, if your one of the more normal people out there, you probably spend a lot of time criticizing yourself; a lot of pointing out what's wrong, or what should be better. Unless you speak back to those thoughts, you're just listening...and that my friend, is a dangerous habit to get stuck with.
With the tech boom recently, we're getting a ton of immediate feedback. Immediate, shallow feedback. How much of it do you listen to? Do you buy the lie that the number of likes on a picture you've shared in some way equates to your value as a person? If not, then you're blessed...but I guarantee you are close with someone whose entire day can hang by the thread of acceptance. We can (and should) fight that--we're all fighters mind you. The battle starts with two simple questions:
1. Do I really believe _________________________?
Here's how I went through those two questions at 2am this morning when the baby woke up for a bottle:
Sleepy Bob- Oh my God I cannot do this. I'm going to die.
Sensei Bob- Really?
Sleepy Bob- Yeah, I'm so tired.
Sensei Bob- So you're tired or you're going to die?
Sleepy Bob- Ok, I'm just tired.
Sensei Bob- So you can do this...you just don't want to.
Sleepy Bob- gets out of bed; and enjoyed a little cuddle time with the baby
You see, if Sleepy Bob got his way, I would have emotionally spiraled downward into a comical pit of despair. Sometimes all it takes is for us to wake up and question the liar inside. ALL lies break down when exposed to truth. Engage your mind. Fight the lies.